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  They Did It with Love

They Did It with Love Readers Guide & Interview:

Written Interview
Discussion Questions



Q. Are you an Agatha Christie fan? And if so, which is your favorite Christie novel?


A. I love Agatha Christie, but I have never been able to figure out the mystery in her books before the reveal. Can anyone? Even my mother (who I consider a master mystery reader) can’t figure them out. But that doesn’t affect my enjoyment of the books. I think I like them as much for Christie’s little comments about human nature as I do for the mystery element. And as for a favorite, I share Sofie’s preference for anything/everything Miss Marple.


Q. You also write YA novels. Do you approach an adult novel differently when you are writing it than a novel for young adults? Or is the process of creating the characters and story the same for you?


A. The only difference for me in writing a young adult novel is the age of the protagonist. My favorite books are the ones where the feelings underneath are universal—the books where it doesn’t matter whether the main character is eighteen or eighty. So that’s what I shoot for in writing. However, though the process of writing YA isn’t any different, I did approach writing a novel with a mystery differently. (See the next question . . . )


Q. Did you plot out the novel before you began it, or were you surprised by who did it?


A. Sometimes the story takes you places where you don’t expect, so I’m not a fan of intricate outlines. I like to leave room in my books to be surprised while I’m writing. But I did a lot more structure work with this book because of the mystery element. I think with a mystery the goal is that the reveal isn’t obvious beforehand, but when you do know the ending, you can look back and it all makes sense. In order to layer in that retroactive feeling of it all making sense, I had to know who did it. That’s not true for all mysteries though. I read that Scott Turow, in writing Presumed Innocent, didn’t know if his protagonist was the murderer or not. And I think that worked brilliantly there because there is this constant swinging back and forth in when you’re reading that novel, yes he did, no he didn’t, yes he did, no he didn’t . . . you get the idea.


Q. Was the setting of the book always Greenwich, or did that come to you along the way? Why did you pick Greenwich?


A. At first when I wrote the book I made it a fictional town in Connecticut—but in my mind I was thinking of Greenwich. Then at a certain point I decided why not just make it Greenwich? Well, actually, I do know why I didn’t make it Greenwich at first. It is so hard—almost impossible—to portray the complexity of reality in fiction. When you use anything from “real life” in fiction, you’re not going to capture the whole truth of it. Rather you use pieces that serve the story. So, in my mind, my Greenwich is a fictionalized version. There are elements of truth, but it’s not the whole truth.


Q. Do you live in the city or the suburbs? Have you ever lived in the suburbs?


A. I live in Manhattan now, but I spent the first eighteen years of my life in the suburbs. There are the obvious differences—the logistics of getting around, the physical surroundings, the number of people per square mile. But on a deeper level I don’t think that living in the city and living in the suburbs are so wildly different. I think maybe the main difference is one of perception; people expect strange things to happen in the city, but they always seem shocked when the same strange things happen in the suburbs. But strange things—very strange things—happen in the suburbs all the time.


Q. There’s an element of competition and gossip to the closed community portrayed in this novel. It’s one that is often attributed to gated suburban or wealthy suburban communities. What creates this environment, do you think, and is it possible in cities as well as the suburbs? Are there more secrets in the suburbs than in cities, and are they just ignored more often in city environments?


A. I certainly don’t think the gossip and competition are the exclusive domain of wealthy suburban communities. I think you find gossip and competition anywhere you have people. But there is an environment in which gossip and competition seem to do best—any group of a certain closeness and homogeneity (what we usually refer to as “community”) tends to be the ideal breeding ground for gossip and competition. A larger group with more diversity will result in other things, like the “us and them” mentality or a sense of isolation that goes along with a lack of community, but gossip and competition don’t fare as well. One isn’t necessarily better than another—I think it’s a matter of picking your poison, as they say.


Q. Are you in a book club? If yes, what have been some of your favorite books that you’ve read with your group? Do you have “rules” like Priscilla does about who can join and what you read?


A. I have been in many book clubs in the past. I am in only one at the moment, but I like doing as many book clubs as I can possibly fit into my schedule. I love having an excuse to read so I can say to myself, “Nope, I can’t pay those bills, do the laundry, defrost the arctic icecap that is my freezer tonight because I have to read this book for tomorrow’s meeting.” One of the best book clubs I was in had a rule where everyone had to prepare a little presentation on the book, and though it sounds like a fifth grade book report, and it always seemed a bit of a pain in the neck to do beforehand, when it came time for the book group to get together it always made the meeting better because it was fun to see the different ideas that people came up with, and it kept us focused on the book.


Q. Who and what are your favorite authors and books, and what draws you to them?


A. I have an eclectic group of favorite authors. It’s curious, but none of my very top picks are contemporary. My top three are Anthony Trollope, Jane Austen, and Selma Lagerlof (not well known, but she was the first woman to win a Nobel Prize for literature). I love that sense of reading someone who was writing a hundred or two hundred years ago, but feeling like the authors are describing people I know. I love that sense that the traits of human nature are timeless.

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Discussion Questions

Warning: Questions and discussion topics below may reveal plot points.

  1. There are several different marriages and serious relationships portrayed in the novel. Which ones do you think will survive for the long haul and why do you think those characters work as a couple?
  2. Would you join Priscilla’s book group if you were invited?
  3. Priscilla has very specific rules for her book group. Do you agree with her rules or disagree with them? How important are rules in your book group (supposing you are in one)?
  4. Is your community like the one that Morgenroth portrays here, with competition over holiday decoration and parties and secrets from your neighbors? Would you characterize your neighborhood as a close community?
  5. Do you think that a community in the suburbs is more prone to secrets and competitive nature than a community within a city? Why or why not?
  6. Did you relate to Sophie’s fears and concerns about moving out of the city to a suburban environment? Have you made a similar move and were you glad you did?
  7. If you are living in a small town or a suburb now, could you imagine yourself living in a large city?
  8. Did you figure out who the murderer was before the reveal?
  9. How did you feel when you discovered who killed Julia? Did you feel sympathetic to the murderer?
  10. What clues does Morgenroth give to the murderer’s identity throughout the novel? Are there false clues that point to others?
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